I went to a friend's wedding on the weekend, and was reminded again, how wonderful and beautiful marriage can be, and how a wedding is a time for celebrating love and the unity of two people.
It is also a time to remember how serious the commitment is that you are making - to commit to spending the rest of your life with someone else is a BIG deal. Bigger than big.
I made that commitment three and a half years ago, and haven't looked back once.
This morning however - "marriage" made me exceptionally angry.
Kim Kardashian got married seventy two days ago.
Today, she filed for divorce.
I am extremely sick and tired of celebrities mocking marriage. Stop getting married. Stop spending millions of dollars on a wedding. Stop throwing your "love" in everyone's face, only to have the embarrassment of ending it less than three months later.
Why celebrities (or anyone who gets divorced over a short period of time) get married is mind boggling to me. We live in a time where marriage is no longer necessary, no longer law, no longer an absolute means to an end. It's something I believe in strongly, but you don't have to get married anymore. So why do it?
I really think people don't realize that after the glitz of a wedding production (which for Kim Kardashian, it absolutely was. A 2 hour long, 10 million dollar spectacle on E!, actually), there is an actual marriage required.
After the white dress comes off, the DJ's been paid, and the presents have been opened, you really have to spend your life with someone. Shocking, I know.
"There is such pleasure in long term marriage. Remember, sustaining a pleasurable, long term marriage takes effort, deliberateness, and an intention to learn about one another. In other words, marriage is for grown ups." - Cookie Roberts, From This Day Forward
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